Live As The Real You – Finally, After All This Time
“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are” – Carl Jung
This is for if you sense you’ve been living from the surface for too long. Have you been operating from the self you built just to get through life? Have you been living as the version of you that copes, performs, manages, and gets things done? The one who learned, a long time ago, how to be acceptable and useful.
While this coping mechanism has worked well in its own way and got you to where you are today, it isn’t really you. Underneath those protective layers, quietly waiting, is your deeper, genuine self. It is the part of you that existed before the disappointments, compromises, and accumulated expectations of life. The part you’ve been catching glimpses of lately, especially when you’re alone.
This programme is for anyone who is ready to stop living from the surface and finally find their way back to their own true path.
Is this right for you?
The Rebecoming PROGRAMME IS right for you if:
You feel ordinary support is no longer enough. This is for when you are ready to pause the daily routine and dedicate real time to going beneath the surface of your life.
You are new to this work, yet ready for the complete journey home, with the time and space to let it truly sink in.
Maybe you’ve already done Make It Make Sense or experienced our Head-to-Heart Healing sessions, and now you feel ready to go all the way and come fully home to yourself.
The Rebecoming PROGRAMME IS not right for you if:
This isn’t the right fit if you’re in a mental health crisis right now. This work is deeply supportive, but it isn’t crisis care. Your safety has to come first, so please contact a medical professional or a dedicated crisis service before considering the programme.
What Is The Rebecoming Programme?
This is the deeper journey of coming home to who you’ve always been underneath it all.
Over 6 months, you’ll walk this path in a small, close-knit group, with both of us guiding you every step of the way. The programme comprises an introduction followed by 12 sessions in total. The sessions are typically fortnightly and create a steady, sustainable pace. The programme is intentionally balanced between two kinds of work: 6 group learning sessions that gently break down the nine blocks that tend to keep people stuck, and 6 face-to-face personal guidance sessions.
What You Will Get From It
Put simply, you will discover and begin to live as the real you
This isn’t about becoming a better or improved version of yourself. It’s about uncovering the you who was already there beneath the surface, before life asked you to be someone else, the one who feels at home in their own skin and quietly knows what matters, without constantly having to think it through.
When you return to that place, you’ll feel lighter, freer, and more in charge of your own life than you have in years. The decisions you make will truly be yours, taken for your own genuine reasons, rather than shaped by what other people expect or need from you. You’ll finally live as the person you actually are, rather than the one you learned to be.
Why This Works
Revealing our layers isn’t something the mind can do on its own. The surface self was built over the years, one protective layer at a time, and it settles just as gradually. That’s the quiet power of six unhurried months. There’s time for understanding to become real release, time for each piece of work to settle before the next, and time for the person underneath to come forward at a pace that feels safe. This isn’t a sprint to a better you. It’s a slow, steady homecoming to the you that was always there.
We invite you to join us on the journey back to who you’ve always been.
The Details
What you’ll also take away
A working knowledge of the method. You’ll leave with practical new tools, a deeper understanding of your inner world, and a lasting way of knowing yourself.
A foundation, built over time. Six months of steady, intentional attention to your own life. This kind of sustained presence creates a level of inner stability most people don’t realise is possible until they finally experience it for themselves.
What’s Included
A two-hour programme introduction session
Six group learning sessions covering the nine blocks
Six personal Head-to-Heart Healing sessions with both of us
A small, close-knit group throughout
A fortnight between sessions, for a steady and sustainable pace
£2,500, with a 10% discount for payment in full upfront. Payment plans available on request.
Introducing Steve and Cilla
Steve Roche and Cilla Hall are the cofounders of Head, Heart & Soul and the coauthors of Rebecoming, the book that lays out the method on which this work is built.
Steve was an original director of Kooth, the LSE-listed digital mental health provider. One of his strengths is that he sees the patterns, such as how things connect, why you react the way you do, and what’s actually going on underneath.
Cilla brings a long background in guiding people through personal change. One of her strengths is her ability to notice what isn’t being said. She picks up on the things you might not know you’re feeling, and her warmth helps you say them when you’re ready.
What sets us apart in this field is that we have walked the same ground ourselves. The method is the work we have done on our own lives, refined over the years into what we now offer to others.
This is reflective work, and it can be more tiring than you might expect. Eat well before you arrive for any session and bring a water bottle. Wear something comfortable and always bring a jumper or wrap to a session, as even on a warm day, the process of releasing emotions can often leave you feeling a bit chilly.
In the evenings after any session, take it gently. You may find that your thoughts keep turning over what came up, even after you’ve gone home. That’s the work continuing. Try not to pack the evening with too much. A walk, a quiet meal, an early night and maybe a few minutes with your notebook before you go to sleep.
From Those Who Have Done This Work
“For most of my life, I carried deep and painful emotional wounds from being taken advantage of. I’d become the person who couldn’t say no, who gave until there was nothing left. I was exhausted from years of people-pleasing and had lost all sense of who I was beyond what I could do for others. The transformation has been profound. I’m now fiercely self-reliant in the healthiest way. I’ve found the courage to say no without guilt, to choose where I put my energy. For the first time, I’m living life on my own terms.”
— Santhuru Murugamoorthy
“I have learned a lot about myself through this, which will help mould my future self. It was wonderful and much-needed. Cilla and Steve could not do enough. It was a lovely experience.”
— Suzanne Macaree
“I had spent most of my childhood surviving trauma, and taking that into my adult life meant navigating the world in the only way I knew how. By the time I reached out for support, I was exhausted from constantly questioning myself. Since completing the process, something within me has shifted. I feel lighter, clearer, and more grounded in who I am. I am beginning to understand myself with compassion rather than criticism. I feel more confident setting boundaries, trusting my instincts, and recognising my worth.”
Stop Being Who Other People Need. Start Being Who You Are.
Each month, we take an ordinary part of life, money, love, self-care, the friendships that have drifted, and look at it honestly through your head, your heart and your soul. A bit of timeless wisdom in plain words, one gentle question to sit with, and no advice you’ve heard a hundred times. Because you’re not broken, you’re just disconnected from your true self.
Whenever we run an offer on our workshops, sessions, or retreats, you’ll find the details in this newsletter. It’s just our way of saying thank you for joining us.
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