You didn’t fix me – you helped me uncover the strength that was always mine.
For most of my life, I carried deep and painful emotional wounds from being taken advantage of – in relationships, at work, everywhere. I’d become the person who couldn’t say no, who gave until there was nothing left, always putting others first at my own expense. I was playing small, constantly hoping others would see value in my ideas and invest in me, rather than backing myself. When I started working with Steve, I was exhausted from years of people-pleasing and had lost all sense of who I was beyond what I could do for others.
The Head-to-Heart process revealed patterns I’d been blind to. Steve helped me see that my inability to set boundaries came from old beliefs about my worth being tied to how useful I was to others. His direct yet compassionate approach allowed me to feel the hurt I’d buried for decades – hurt that was actually trying to protect me.
The transformation has been profound. I’m now fiercely self-reliant in the healthiest way. I’ve found the courage to say no without guilt, to choose where I put my energy. For the first time, I’m living life on my own terms. I am discovering interests and dreams I’d never allowed myself to have.
Instead of waiting for others to validate my worth, I’ve forged my own path. I now have a career that pays well and truly values my contributions. Even more meaningful, I’ve set up my own community interest company – something I never would have had the confidence to do before. I’m no longer hoping someone else will believe in my ideas – I’m making them happen myself.
What surprises me most is that I still help others – but everything has changed about how I do it. Now, when I give, it’s from fullness, not emptiness. It’s my choice, not an obligation. I do for others on my terms, with clear boundaries. My community interest company is the perfect example – I’m serving others, but from a position of strength and self-direction.
The focused, courageous person I am today was always there, just buried under layers of old wounds and fear. You didn’t fix me – you helped me uncover the strength that was always mine. If you’ve spent your life being taken advantage of or playing small, please know there’s another way. You can be kind and have boundaries. You can help others and not be taken advantage of. You can stop waiting for permission and create your own success. That’s a gift of this work.
— Santhuru Murugamoorthy
The depth of what Steve offered keeps revealing itself. Even now, I’m still discovering how much he gave. The Head-to-Heart Healing process unblocked something huge and deep in me. My son has a better mum now. My own mother is getting more peace of mind, watching her daughter finally calmer, happier, and just … better. I didn’t know I was in total darkness until Steve turned the light on. I’m very grateful indeed.
– Dayo Gilmour
I worked with Steve over a couple of Head-to-Heart Healing sessions, each addressing different patterns that had been controlling my life without me being fully aware. In one session, I discovered that guilt had been my constant companion for decades. In another session, we went into my complicated relationship with my mother, and I finally faced emotions I’d buried since childhood – the hurt and the unmet needs that I’d never allowed myself to fully acknowledge.
After each session, I had more clarity and felt lighter, but the cumulative effect has been amazing. The emotional healing I’ve experienced has changed how I live my life – I’m no longer weighed down by guilt or unresolved mother wounds. The process didn’t just help me understand these patterns intellectually – it gave me the tools to actually release what I’d been holding onto for decades.
– Theresa H
Working with the Head-to-Heart Healing process has been a truly transformative experience. For example, the Discovery Writing exercises have helped me understand my thoughts more clearly and recognise why I react in certain ways.
Through this work, I’m becoming more aligned with myself and more connected to who I truly am.
This work has supported my healing in a very real way. The personal guidance work even gave me the confidence to join one of the group sessions, something I never thought I’d be brave enough to do. I’m genuinely grateful for the progress I’m making.
– Maria Pardo
I had no idea how much clarity this would bring. For years, I struggled with unhealthy patterns due to unresolved childhood issues. This helped me understand those patterns and develop healthier habits in my life. I feel lighter and more empowered than ever before.
– Jacqui O’Connell
I have learned a lot about myself through this, which will help mould my future self. It was wonderful and much-needed. Cilla and Steve could not do enough. It was a lovely experience.
– Suzanne Macaree
When Cilla first suggested I try the head-to-heart process, something inside me knew I was ready, even though I couldn’t fully explain why. She saw something in me that I couldn’t yet see in myself – and that intuition of hers was spot on.
After decades of numbing myself and pushing down my feelings, I’ve finally learned how to actually feel again. Through this process, I’ve gained incredible awareness and clarity about my emotional wounds – wounds I didn’t even know were there. The transformation has been nothing short of amazing.
What makes their approach so powerful is that it doesn’t let you hide from yourself. You simply cannot lie or make excuses – the process demands complete honesty, and that’s a big reason why it works. It’s challenging, but Cilla and Steve are two of the kindest, most dedicated people you’ll ever meet. They are patient and compassionate with you while guiding you through the tough moments.
The results speak for themselves. I used to suffer from anxiety attacks, but they’re gone now. I’m talking more openly, sharing parts of myself that I used to keep locked away. I have developed a whole new level of awareness about my thoughts, and importantly, I can now actually notice how my body reacts to my emotions – something I was previously completely disconnected from.
If you’re on the fence about doing this work, all I can say is: trust the process. Trust Cilla and Steve. And most of all, trust yourself. You’re more ready than you think.
– Anthony Bethell
Since completing the process, something within me has shifted. I feel lighter, clearer, and more grounded in who I am
I had spent most of my childhood surviving trauma, and taking that into my adult life meant navigating the world in the only way I knew how. I grew into someone with low self-esteem, constant self-doubt, and a deep uncertainty about my own value. I carried those early wounds into every decision and every relationship, often feeling small and unsure of myself even when I appeared to be coping on the surface. By the time I reached out for support, I was exhausted from constantly questioning myself and trying to hold everything together alone.
When Cilla and Steve offered me the opportunity to meet with them, nothing could have prepared me for what the process would bring. I went in with trepidation and fear, unsure of what might surface or how it might affect me. Yet they created a space that felt safe enough for me to finally stop running from the things I had buried for so long.
The writing exercise was especially powerful. It was cathartic, revealing, emotional, and deeply healing. Putting my experiences onto paper helped me release feelings I didn’t even realise I was still carrying. It allowed me to see connections between my past and the patterns that had shaped my life in a way I had never been able to before.
Since completing the process, something within me has shifted. I feel lighter, clearer, and more grounded in who I am. I am beginning to understand myself with compassion rather than criticism. I feel more confident setting boundaries, trusting my instincts, and recognising my worth. It hasn’t been an overnight change, but it has been a pivotal and empowering turning point.
This experience has genuinely been transformative, and I am deeply grateful for the honesty, support, and guidance Cilla and Steve brought into the journey with me.
– Michelle Dunbar
After decades of numbing myself and pushing down my feelings, I’ve finally learned how to actually feel again.
