What You Have Been Taught About Love Is Wrong. It Is Time to Learn What Actually Works.
Discover the difference between love that drains you and love that sustains you – including the love you give yourself
Most of us learned about love from people who did not know how to love themselves. We learned to earn affection through achievement, to measure our worth by others’ approval, and to confuse attachment with love. The result? You find yourself:
- Wondering if you are truly loved—or just useful
- Mistaking intensity and drama for “real” love
- Keeping score in relationships without realising it
- Feeling anxious when you should feel safe
- Saying yes when you mean no
- Putting everyone else first while running on empty
- Confusing sacrifice with love
But real love – the kind that actually sustains you – works completely differently.
In this transformative day, you will discover:
- Why everything you learned about love might be backwards
- The crucial difference between mind-based love (conditional, calculated, exhausting) and heart-based love (unconditional, flowing, energising)
- Why attachment feels like love but creates anxiety instead of peace
- The two core emotions – love and fear – and why every feeling you have stems from one or the other
- What real love actually feels like (spacious, safe, freeing – not intense and uncertain)
- Why love cannot be measured or earned – it is either there or it is not
- How childhood shaped your love patterns – and how to reshape them
- Why self-care is not selfish – it is the foundation of genuine love
- The five dimensions of real self-care
- How to set boundaries without building walls
You will leave with:
- Clear understanding of what healthy love actually looks like – and feels like
- The ability to distinguish love from attachment in your relationships
- Freedom from constantly measuring or proving your love
- Tools for choosing love over fear in difficult moments
- A personal self-care plan that addresses all five dimensions of well-being
- Practical ways to transform your inner dialogue from critic to friend
- The ability to love others without losing yourself
- Strategies for creating relationships that energise rather than exhaust
This workshop is for those ready to stop performing love and start experiencing it. For those who sense that real love should feel like a safe harbour, not a storm.
Because when you truly understand love – and extend it to yourself first – everyone around you benefits from the overflow.
Facilitators:
- Steve Roche & Cilla Hall (Authors of Rebecoming)
Venue:
Clayton Hotel Chiswick
Workshop Details
The Truth About Love runs twice yearly in London.
- Dates: Saturday 14 February 2026
- Location: Clayton Hotel Chiswick. 626 Chiswick High Road, London W4 5RY. (5-minute walk from Gunnersbury station)
- Time: 9:30am – 6;00pm (registration from 9:00am)
- Pricing: Early Bird – £145; Standard – £195
Your Day Includes:
- Full day workshop (8.5 hours)
- Lunch and refreshments
- FREE copy of the Rebecoming book
- Comprehensive workbook
- Practical tools to take home
- Small group size for personal attention
Questions?
Email us at info@headheartandsoul.co.uk
Frequently Asked Questions
What will I actually learn in this workshop?
You’ll discover why your current approach to love might be exhausting you, learn the difference between conditional love (earning approval) and real love (flowing naturally), and gain practical tools to transform your relationships – starting with yourself.
I give so much to others but feel empty. Is this workshop for me?
Absolutely. This workshop is specifically designed for people who are exhausted from over-giving, saying yes when they mean no, and putting everyone else first. You’ll learn why this pattern exists and how to love without depleting yourself.
Is this just about romantic relationships?
No. This workshop addresses all forms of love – how you relate to partners, family, friends, colleagues, and most importantly, yourself. The patterns we explore affect every relationship in your life.
I feel guilty when I prioritize myself. Will this help?
Yes. We’ll explore why you’ve been programmed to feel guilty about self-care and help you understand that caring for yourself isn’t selfish – it’s essential. You can’t give what you don’t have.
What’s the difference between mind-based and heart-based love?
Mind-based love is conditional, calculated, and exhausting – it’s about earning approval and meeting expectations. Heart-based love is unconditional, flowing, and sustainable. We’ll teach you how to shift from one to the other.
I’m afraid if I set boundaries, people will leave. Will we address this?
Directly. You’ll learn the difference between boundaries and walls, and discover that healthy boundaries actually improve relationships. Real love respects limits; unhealthy attachment doesn’t.
What are the “five dimensions of self-care” you mention?
We explore self-care beyond the surface level, addressing physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, and relational wellbeing. You’ll create a personal plan that covers all dimensions – and no, it’s not just about spa days.
I’ve read self-help books about love but nothing’s changed. How is this different?
Reading about love is like reading about swimming – it doesn’t teach you how to swim. This workshop provides experiential learning and practical tools you’ll actually use, not just concepts to understand intellectually.
Will I have to share personal details about my relationships?
Never. While there are opportunities for discussion, you control what you share. Many people gain profound insights just from listening and doing the individual exercises.
I’m worried this is about becoming selfish or narcissistic. Is it?
Not at all. There’s a crucial difference between healthy self-love (which creates overflow for others) and narcissism (which takes from others). We’ll clarify this distinction and show why genuine self-care makes you more available for real love, not less.
My partner/family member really needs this. Can I bring them?
You’re welcome to invite them, but focus on coming for yourself. The patterns we address often shift entire relationship dynamics when just one person changes their approach.
What if I don’t think I have “love issues”?
If you ever feel drained after helping others, struggle with boundaries, seek approval, or wonder why relationships feel hard, this workshop will give you insights. We all learned love from imperfect models.
Will this clash with my religious or spiritual beliefs about love and service?
Our approach honours all traditions while helping you distinguish between genuine service (which energizes) and exhausting self-sacrifice (which depletes). Real spiritual love includes loving yourself as you love others.
What practical tools will I leave with?
You’ll have a personal self-care plan, specific techniques for transforming your inner dialogue, boundary-setting strategies, and daily practices for maintaining healthy love. These aren’t theories – they’re practical tools you’ll use immediately.
I‘m in therapy. Will this interfere?
This workshop complements therapy beautifully. We focus on practical tools and pattern recognition rather than processing trauma. Many therapists recommend our work to their clients.
What happens after the workshop?
You’ll leave with everything you need to continue the journey. We also offer follow-up sessions, personal guidance, and our fortnightly free Inner Work Hour for ongoing support, but these are entirely optional.